A Balancing Act

I finished watching a flash movie about 8 principals to having fun. One of the principals stated that you should remove all the clutter in your life. I agree with that, but in the list of clutter it said people. I felt they said this hesitantly, don’t ask me why I think that. Either in that same movie or in another one made by them, they said that you should love and cherish your friends and family. This created a problem for me, if I were to follow those principals.

A lot of the clutter I see in my life comes from my family and sometimes my friends. I love them but they do have their tenancies to get overwhelming. I always saw my self doing something great with my life, but I also want to be with the people I love and experience life with them. There are some problems in that equation. I feel as though nothing truly great resides where I live currently. I live in a small area full of people and companies, most of which aren’t huge in the world. I would like to think that if I did something, it’d be to better the world but I don’t know if I can do that here. Basically, I want to move, see the world and draw in experiences from different places and people. Honestly, I don’t want to leave my friends…I want to leave my family, which I think is normal for someone of my age.

I feel as though one of my friends might be holding me back. I love her dearly, so I say this with the best intentions. I always thought I would be doing things in a spontaneous way. On a whim. She however plans everything, which works for her. She doesn’t want to move anywhere unless she already has a job waiting, an apartment waiting and knows what’s going on. I however don’t understand how you can have a life somewhere you’ve never been. There has to be some planning for the future, like I would either take enough money with me to get a place to stay or have someone waiting to help me out with rooming accommodations. So I was thinking about this lately, and I discuss it with her and she seems to think I’m crazy. She explicitly told me that I cannot go anywhere that I don’t have a place to live and a job to earn money from. I told her what I thought on all this, and as my best friend she barred me from going anywhere without mainly these two qualifications.

Would my friend qualify as clutter? She said she would follow me, if I moved appropriately. Would this be a good situation? Lots of questions are running through my head.