Secret Messages

A couple times in my life I have had friends betray me so much that it is difficult for me to continue the friendship. One such instance is when a girl set me up with the immature boy that was a few years too young for me. She had knowingly allowed me to go out with someone who was illegally too young for me. My other friends agreed that this was a high offense and that it would be appropriate if I didn’t talk to her any more. So, calmly we all just stopped talking to her and I haven’t heard from her. I’m not quite sure why she’s been so okay with it, she sees us all hanging out together. Anyways, I was able to just move on without her just fine.

 

Another such instance was when a friend set me up with someone. Everything was going fine until one day, I was hanging out with her, another girl and we went to pick up the boy. We arrived at his house and I wanted him to sit up front with me and my friend got upset and insisted that he sit in back. I asked her why and she got offended. She said she needed to inform him of something. So, they talked then I asked if he could sit upfront and she agreed. There was a bit of hostility between us though. Later, after we dropped him off, I explained I was hoping to hold his hand for the first time that evening, and then I think she felt guilty. Anyways, I asked her later what the whole thing was about. She held it as a secret for a while, then informed me that she had told him that he had to contact another boy they mutually knew. This boy they mutually knew had to warn the boy I was interested in about something about me. I asked her what, and she said she didn’t know.

After that, it seemed to that there was a lot of drama between the three of us, all caused from the “secret”. Eventually the guy broke up with me because he was interested in someone else (who never went out with him anyways). The funny thing is I eventually met the person that had this secret message. He said that here wasn’t anything he was supposed to warn my ex about. He didn’t even know me, especially when the situation occurred. He just wanted to get in contact with my ex.

So now that you’re updated on the situation, my problems will be easier to understand. The girl that messed up the relationship between the guy and me because she lied about stuff and started a bunch of drama still thinks we’re friends. She calls me quite often and even annoys me with the whole “We need to hang out.” “Why don’t you call me?” and “I miss you!” comments.

I find it very difficult to hang out with people I lost trust in. I find it especially difficult to hang out with people who would appear crazy in the sense that they push drama into a relationship using lies. To be honest though, when I ignore her voice messages, text messages and calls, I feel a sliver of guilt. Is it all that bad that I don’t condone hanging out with liars, drama llamas and crazy people? Should I continue to hang out with her? I did have some fun with her, but the drama was overwhelming. Which out weighs the other?