Forbidden Fruit

For the most part, I am an open person. If asked about my sexuality I will come forward and tell the truth. This does not mean I run around and yell it aloud, I find that obnoxious. All of my friends and most of my coworkers are in the know about me being gay. One situation that shocks me is when I get to know a girl, we start hanging out and we have a lot in common, then suddenly she’s obsessing over me. I have one of those friends right now. Here’s how it goes.

 

She and I met when she started working at the store. She doesn’t work in the same department but I have to walk past her area whenever I go on break, lunch, leave or come in to work. We got along, she had a nice style, what more could a gay guy ask for in a female confidant?

For a while, we planned on hanging out outside of work. Eventually we got around to it and we had fun. We hung out a couple of times after that. One time she hosted a Valentine’s party and I helped her with it. It seemed everything was going fine until suddenly she started to use the phrase “I miss you” quite often. I hear the phrase from a portion of my friends, but not as often as she was using it. It seemed like every time that I would call her, she would some how fit in it.

Then it started. She would call me randomly just to tell me she missed me. She would send me text messages just to ask me what I was doing. Why? Cause she missed me. It just kept getting worse and worse.

 

So my first instinct is to back away. Every time I do that with people like this, it seems to cause them to get more obsessive. I’m not sure what to do at this point, because it seems very much that she would appear to have a crush on me. We haven’t seen each other in maybe a week and I think it’s driving her mad.

I’m wondering if it will take her seeing me with a boy before she realizes that she has no chance. Is it too much of me to ask that she doesn’t get her feelings involved? How can I get her to stop annoying and not hurt her feelings?